Do you spend most of your time trying to please others? For most of my life, I was a people pleaser. I confused that with being a good person. They are not the same. Over the last 10-15 years, I gradually began making decisions based on what I thought was best for me. I didn’t become selfish or uncaring. I simply learned to put my own oxygen mask on first.
A few years back, because of some radical choices I made, a family member decided to change their will and remove my name as potential legal guardian for their children. They said I was “not the person I used to be.” At the time, I was devastated by their decision and their words. Ironically, BECAUSE of those same radical choices I made, a friend just asked me to be the potential legal guardian of her children!
Although I am greatly honored by her request, I have finally come to the realization that my self worth is totally independent of her opinion today or that of the family member who rejected me years ago. I am now able to base my decisions on my inner compass instead of external accolades and, I am proud to say, “I’m not the person I used to be.”
Who will you please today?
Let your spirit soar!
Paula
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