Letting go #42
For the last ten days I have been trying to keep my cool. The closing date for selling my house has fallen through three times because the loan wasn’t approved yet. I don’t claim to know anything about the process of selling a house. I’m very grateful to have a realtor taking care of business. But I must say I am incredulous that the bank (and I’ve been told this one is the WORST!) has the right to keep people dangling until the last possible minute. I felt really jerked around. I imagine the buyer must have felt the same.
I found myself getting angry over the bank’s manipulation and fearful of not selling the house as scheduled to relieve my financial situation. In one of my calmer moments, I asked myself how I might be contributing to (creating) the problem. Two things came to mind. First, I’ve always had a problem with letting money flow into my life. Was I feeling unworthy? Did I think this process had to be really hard, so that I would feel justified that I had earned the money? And, was I mentally holding on to the house for sentimental reasons. After all, we raised our family their!
First, I began focusing more on the buyer’s desire to get the house than on my fear of not selling it. I came from a place of abundance. I had a house and she wanted it, so how could I help her get it. So I focused all my energy on picturing her being settled in her new home in time for Thanksgiving and just how happy and thankful she would be. Secondly, I felt a strong urge to visit the empty house this afternoon. I realized that I hadn’t completely let it go. I did a small releasing ceremony where I gave thanks for how the house has served me and my family for years and declared out loud that I was ready to release it to its new owner and move on with my own life. That was at 1pm.
I received a call at 3pm. The loan was just approved.
Let your spirit soar!
Paula
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Paula, I know a bit about how you are feeling. I have sold 3 properties over the years. I still think of the first one as ‘home’. It is where I raised David – I sometimes drive past it and recall the pleasant (and not so pleasant) memories — I had it built, added a 16×18 family room and, lastly, added a 2 car garage. I left that home in 2002 – and still have fond memories of the 25 years I spent there. Just glad that I no longer am responsible for mowing the large lot, or plowing the long wide driveway!!!
Look ahead to ‘new beginnings’.
Awesome!! Congrats:)) I have a similar experience to share concerning my job. When I was working at my previous company in Hudson, I began to realize that a curiously high percentage of employees went on from that company to work at BAE Systems. Coincidentally, one of my possible commute routes went by one of Nashua’s BAE Systems plants. I began choosing that route to drive by BAE Systems every day to “get the karma flowing”. I also used to connect spiritually with my late mom by “asking” her out loud, “so..Mom…what do you think…BAE Systems?” I have now been working for BAE Systems since last December:) It really is true that you have to let opportunity in.
Hi Caroline,
Thanks for sharing your great story as well! I’m happy for you. 🙂
Paula
Congratulations, Paula!!!!! I love when things work like that.
Thanks, Cherune. Me too!!! 🙂
Paula…I like the question you asked yourself. How am I contributing to this problem? When you asked the right question you came to “your” truth.
Thanks for the reminder to inquire. I was just sitting here thinking about a saying that has been helpful to me. “Everything happens FOR me not TO me.” But the other day I heard some say it with just a bit of differance, “Everything happens THROUGH me not TO me. As I was meditating on this I decided to read your blog and it perfectly illustrates this. Thank you for your honest and open spirit. Sending you love and hugs.
Colleen
Hi Colleen,
Yes, that phrase: God’s gifts have to come through me, not to me. I first heard from author Florence Schovel Schinn (? spelling) in her book, The Game of Life. It changes our approach to everything!
I LOVED visiting you and seeing your new space. It was the homiest, most artsy space of all. 🙂 Glad you are happy there.
Paula
hi paula, i read your blogs and you are doing a wonderful job of putting out alternative ways to enjoy the moments. the visualization works so well. i had momentarily forgotten about it and put it to good use and had wonderful results. thank you for your loving thoughts. the paperwork we needed closure to came about with a little visualization. right on girl.